How to Connect Deeper

Connecting on a personal level has become so much easier these days as we may think since we have access to our friends, families and co-workers via Facebook, Instagram, email or text.  Surprisingly enough our connection level to people has not increased and we seem to drift apart more on a personal level. We become spectators to other people’s lives, cheering them on, supporting them but not necessarily really are part of their life.  Just like fans of a sports team, we watch every move they make, see their struggles, wins, and will either adore them or speak negatively about them. No matter what the outcome is of the game, we still continue to do the same thing, game after game.

Being connected in a relationship is not just about having access to someone’s personal life but playing a role in that person’s life you are watching.  To build a deep connection with friends and families you must start by doing the little things with great love. By little things, it means to do things that the person would least expect of you.  It is typical or even expected for a husband to buy chocolates and flowers on Valentine’s Day to give to his wife. Instead of doing the expected, fix up the garden for her in the summer if she loves gardening or have the house deep cleaned by a professional so she can relax for the summer when the kids are out of school or even simply making coffee for her every morning when she wakes up.   

By creatively finding small things to do for one another that may not be on a holiday, you are celebrating the person and not the holiday.  In our culture we so often get caught up in celebrating the holidays but not the actual person or event we are commemorating, rather the intended purpose is watered down and lost.  By doing small things for friends, families and strangers we build a habit of spreading kindness and love that will eventually turn into something great for that person you are doing it for.  

Learn to do small things with great love so that your actions will become extraordinary without you even trying.  Building connections this way with one another will surpass all social media platforms in forming relationships. This “Act of Service” love language is the start to a building a deeper connection to those around you.

Remembering the great words Mother Teresa once said.

“Intense Love does not measure.  It just Gives.”

“Acts of Service” at home

The Art of Serenity

With a historical structure such as the Notre-Dame Cathedral in Paris, its beauty and splendor is hard to miss in either photos or in person.  Through its French Gothic architectural design, its rich history of nobles, saints and leaders that have stepped inside the cathedral to its important role as a spiritual home to the French people  and to all the millions of visitors who come annually to visit, this cathedral represents something that transcends time. This massive structure is the proud symbol of Paris. With the devastating fire on April 15th that caused damage to the spire and oak roof (Wikipedia), the cathedrals’ beauty and splendor was in dire danger.  In the past, the cathedral had survived fires and gone through many renovations, yet it managed to stand tall and remain beautiful. This recent fire will only be a blemish that may leave a scar in the future but it is a scar that will not hinder the cathedral’s magnificent beauty and spiritual appeal. Plans of rebuilding the cathedral has already been initiated without delay.  In the minds of the French, Notre-Dame de Paris will be rebuilt and made even more beautiful than before. Hope is the cornerstone for rebuilding.


Like the Cathedral of Notre Dame, we each are gifted with qualities that breathe beauty and splendor.  There are things in our journey in life that will bring on destruction and fires but how we manage to keep calm and serene is the key to coming out of difficult times with a new face lift and renewed body and mind.  Each of us have a past and history that has molded us to who we are but learning to let our beauty and splendor shine makes us a masterpiece in spite of what of how good or bad or history may be. Learning the Art of Serenity can connect us to our core being and propel us to move forward to take action to rebuild and not sit and sulk at our circumstance.  When we are calm and at peace with ourselves and the situation, it is then we can begin to make peace with others. The Art of Serenity gives birth to words of life by fueling our mind with thoughts that will build us up.

Practice the Art of Serenity by meditating in prayers everyday and train your mind to shut distractions.  Keep your breathing controlled and steady and stay connected to your core by staying focused not on the unknown future or the past but on the present.  Learn to accept unknowns and mysteries of life without always having a definite answer to them. The Art of Serenity is a lost Art in our modern culture because the demand for speed and immediate gratification has taken over.  We need to reclaim this lost Art of serenity so our culture can once again see beauty, splendor and compassion in everything, just like what the historical and spiritual monument of Notre-Dame Cathedral de Paris means to the generations past, present and future.

You cannot perceive beauty, but with a serene mind.

Henry David Thoreau

Wanting to practice the Art of Serenity in your life, start with a quiet space to refocus your mind and spirit.  Create this space by adorning stones that speak words of life, such as “peace”, “be still”, “joy”, “believe”, “hope”, and “faith”. They will be a reminder to you daily to slow down and reflect on life’s mystery and beauty.


Do you know what Season you are in?

Just like the lyrics of the song made famous way back in 1965 by The Byrds titled “Turn, turn, turn”, it sings about how there is a time for everything.  A time to be born, a time to die, a time to plant, and a time to uproot. Though this song hit national popularity well over 50 years ago, its’ lyrics still holds true in today’s time.  If we take a look closer at the lyrics and its meaning, we can begin to understand and accept circumstances in our lives and why things happen.

Wellness starts by understanding and accepting that everything has its time and place.  If we can let go of our control over every detail of our lives, we can begin to see the beauty that really exist in the world.  It is when we lose something of value or let it go, we see signs of hope and beauty starting to manifest itself in our surroundings and the people we encounter.  If we cannot do this then, we will always be chasing after the “why” and never be satisfied with the answer we are given.

Examine what season you are in.  Is it a time to build out something new, a time to toss out what is not working, a time to mourn what you have lost or time to rejoice and give thanks.  With every circumstance there is a season of reason behind it. Whatever season you may be in, remember to Eat, Drink, and be Merry, life is more than just the sum of our experiences and circumstances but something greater and beyond us.  Keeping this in perspective will create a sense of calm and peace that will add to your mind and body’s well-being.

For those in a Season of searching, embracing, or planting, here are a few time pieces that will capture the moment and let friends and families see beauty that is in your life.

Spring Is Officially Here

If you are resident of California, Spring has brought about some April showers in May but thanks to those rain falls in the past weeks, it brings host to a surge of wildflowers blooming in the hills of Lake Elsinore in Riverside County.  This Super bloom is the first sign that Spring is here and is also the arrival of the March equinox on March 20th, both the length of day and night are the same ( Along with these two events, many Americans are preparing for Easter with fasting and prayers. Homes are getting a thorough spring cleaning and tidying up.  Our hearts and spirit are also getting a thorough purification and cleansing. It the time to get rid of the clutter and negative things that are holding us back and reflect on the natural beauty and wonders that occurs in our lives.  Take a look outside and see, smell and notice all the flowers in bloom, the warm sunlight that lights up the sky and the onset of life in everything that is living. During this season, let yourself be engulfed in thankfulness, knowing that there is Hope after every rain storm.

(RMFstock / Alamy Stock Photo)

If you are planning a trip out to see the Super bloom, it is a great idea to pack a light lunch and set out to have a picnic while you are out there. Gather with friends and families and enjoy the beautiful scenery while it lasts.  For those who are not able to make it out this way west to California, head out to your nearest botanical garden and see all the blooms that are taking place locally.

Tips & Ideas
– picnic outdoors