We have all heard the phrase from online companies promoting their brand on Google, YouTube, and Yelp emphasizing how they provide the best “customer experience” when you do business with them. The experience starts before you even click the checkout button, it begins when you see the brand’s advertisement or social media posts and then to the brands website, the ease of navigating and shopping, to customer service promptness and finally to the delivery of the goods. This whole process is all packaged up and labeled the customer experience. If you had a good customer experience with a particular brand, you will surely buy from them again and recommend them to friends and families.
Our culture puts a lot of care making sure we as consumers have the best customer experience, but what about the “Motherly Experience”? This may be new to many of us, but our culture should start focusing more on the “Motherly Experience”. This process starts at the planning phase of deciding on a mate and going through the steps of Marriage and finally deciding on having a baby. This first steps are crucial because it lays the path for the 18 years of “Motherly Experience” that the child will go through. With careful thought and intention on choosing the right husband/wife, you start to build the family structure that will mold the child based on how the parents live out their morals and priorities in life. Next, the child’s experience will go through stages of uncertainly, rebellion, identity issues which parents will have to learn to adapt, adjust and figure out a resolution of these issues. Be kind but firm in discussing and communicating your thoughts on how to resolve those issues and at the same time give them room to express their feelings on why those issues are occurring.
Being able to nurture the child’s relationship one step at a time builds self confidence and also lets them know that they are loved no matter how tough things may get. This experience is vital for the child when he/she transitions into adulthood. With the onset of adulthood, the final phases of “Motherly Experience” comes to fruition. You will see how your adult child associates with others in society, how he/she is able to cope with everyday stress and issues and also you will see how they will give love to another person.
If you created a great “Motherly Experience” in those 18 years, , your child will grow up and be a better contributor to society. We must learn to make the “Motherly Experience” part of every parents plan in parenthood. If this template of parenting is duplicated, our world will start to see a decline in bullying, prejudice, suicide and crime. This is not only a job for mothers but also for dads. With the Mother’s Day only a few days away, we want to give a warm hug to all mothers out there that have provided that “Motherly Experience” and have done so with a SMILE on their face.